Healing from Narcissistic Abuse in 6 Steps

Healing from narcissistic abuse is a difficult journey, but it is possible with the right support and resources. Narcissistic abuse is a form of emotional and psychological abuse where the abuser seeks to control and manipulate the victim, leaving them feeling isolated, powerless, and traumatized. If you are recovering from narcissistic abuse, there are key stages of healing after the abuse:

  1. Acknowledge the abuse: The first step in healing from narcissistic abuse is to acknowledge that you were abused. It can be difficult to come to terms with the fact that someone you loved and trusted could hurt you so deeply. However, denying or minimizing the abuse will only prolong your suffering and prevent you from healing. It's important to accept that the abuse happened and to recognize that it was not your fault.

  2. Seek support: Healing from narcissistic abuse is not something you should do alone. It's essential to seek support from people who understand what you're going through, whether it's a therapist, a support group, or trusted friends and family members. Narcissistic abuse can leave you feeling isolated and alone, so it's important to connect with people who can offer empathy and validation.

  3. Set boundaries: One of the ways narcissists maintain control over their victims is by violating their boundaries. To heal from narcissistic abuse, it's essential to learn how to set and enforce healthy boundaries. This may mean limiting contact with the abuser, or cutting off contact altogether. It's also important to learn how to identify and assert your own needs and desires, and to prioritize your own well-being.

  4. Practice self-care: Self-care is essential for healing from narcissistic abuse. This may include getting enough sleep, eating well, exercising regularly, and engaging in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. Self-care also means learning how to manage your emotions and cope with stress in healthy ways. This may involve mindfulness practices, such as meditation or yoga, or seeking professional help from a therapist or counselor.

  5. Educate yourself: Narcissistic abuse is a complex and insidious form of abuse, and it's essential to educate yourself about the dynamics of the abuse and how it has impacted you. This may involve reading books, articles, and blogs about narcissistic abuse, or attending workshops or support groups. By educating yourself about narcissistic abuse, you can begin to understand how it has affected you and develop strategies for healing.

  6. Forgive yourself: Many survivors of narcissistic abuse blame themselves for the abuse or for not leaving the relationship sooner. It's important to remember that the abuse was not your fault, and to forgive yourself for any perceived mistakes or shortcomings. Forgiving yourself means accepting that you did the best you could with the resources and knowledge you had at the time, and letting go of self-blame and shame.

For many survivors of narcissistic abuse, PTSD is a common and often debilitating consequence of the abuse. If you are struggling with healing from PTSD after experiencing narcissistic abuse, here are some steps you can take to begin healing.

  1. Seek professional help: PTSD is a complex and serious mental health condition that requires professional treatment. A therapist or counselor who is trained in trauma-informed care can help you process your experience of narcissistic abuse and develop strategies for managing your symptoms. Depending on the severity of your symptoms, your therapist may recommend various treatments, including cognitive-behavioral therapy, EMDR, or medication.

  2. Practice self-care: Self-care is essential for managing PTSD symptoms and promoting healing. This may include getting enough sleep, eating a healthy diet, exercising regularly, and engaging in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. Self-care also means learning how to manage your emotions and cope with stress in healthy ways, such as mindfulness practices, meditation, or deep breathing exercises.

  3. Build a support system: Having a supportive network of friends and family members can be incredibly beneficial when healing from PTSD. It's important to connect with people who understand what you're going through and can offer empathy and validation. This may include joining a support group for survivors of narcissistic abuse or PTSD, or reaching out to trusted friends and family members.

  4. Use trauma therapy techniques: There are many great tools today to help you heal the PTSD from your narcissistic abuse such as CPT, DBT & Self-Care

At therapy courses we have developed a narcissistic abuse recovery workbook that is specifically designed to help people heal from the abuse. It contains information on how to deal with a narcissist, an introduction to healthy boundaries workbook, a self-care workbook, DBT & CPT (trauma based) courses. 

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